When you start rekindling your desires and dreams a feeling that was long buried will arise: fear.
Because, when we bury our dreams we bury negative feelings associated with the dreams: terrified, not feeling confident, regret, guilt, anxiety, shame, sadness, confusion, helplessness and confusion, just to name some.
Feeling terrified or feeling fear is normal because when you rekindle your heart’s desires you also start thinking how far off your reality is from your dream.
The bigger the dream and the further it is from your skillset, the bigger the fear.
The further the dream from your family’s expectations of you, the bigger your fear.
We are conditions to live within boundaries.
We may have lived within boundaries for a long time.
But when you dream, those boundaries are no longer there.
Your dreams run wild with what could be yours. Your dreams connect you to your core desires.
But your dreams are currently dreams because of limitations imposed on you by your family, your community, your job, and most of all, yourself.
When you dream, you remember how you made decisions that led you to your current path and away from your dreams.
So what are you to do?
Use the fear to your advantage
Recognize that if you are afraid whenever you think of your dream that the dream is big. Remember that big dreams also have the potential to bring big rewards. The bigger the fear, the bigger the dream.
Ask yourself why you are afraid. Answering this will help you make a list of potential obstacles to you going after your dream. When you can anticipate obstacles, you can plan how you can overcome them. It is always better to be prepared upfront for those things that you can foresee.
When you can list why you are afraid you can also see where you are limiting yourself. Then, think of how your life will be if you remove that limiting belief or limiting factor. How will you, your family, your job, and your life change? Is the change something you are willing to sustain?
Is your dream bigger than your fears? If it is, you will willingly put aside the fears and go after your dreams. You will find a way to make a path to your dream.
Ask yourself if you would allow your fear to paralyze you and stop you from the dream or even a part of it?
Ask, what would you do if you were not afraid? Answer this truthfully. Would you go after the dream?
Most of all, while you are feeling scared, love yourself.
Acknowledge your truths about your situation and your decisions.
Remember you did the best you could have done at that time in the past.
Remember that you are now wiser and maybe with more wherewithal now than in the past.
Your fear does not have to consume you and stop you on plotting a journey to your dream. You are different now and you can take even the smallest of steps to go after your dreams.