Very often, when we have decided to take action on our dreams, we choose a path to the dream and get started.
But, after the initial excitement wears off, our motivation wanes too. You may no longer wake up with the excitement to take action towards the dream.
You no longer care to push yourself to your physical limits to achieve your dream. You start believing you don’t have the power to achieve that dream.
We all know that we will get tired sometimes. But when your motivation has cooled to the level of a dream dying a slow death, you start to question whether your dream was what you wanted in the first place. You question whether the dream was someone else’s dream, like your parents’.
The problem is not your dream. The problem is that we don’t often question or challenge whether the path to the dream path satisfies a core inner desire.
So to reduce the chances of you reaching the point of killing a dream later, we will do three short exercises to stress test the path to your dream.
Step 1: Ask why?
In this first step, you will stress test your dream by asking ‘why?’ Ask what need does the dream fill. Repeatedly ask this question until you get to your core desires.
Write down your dream on a page. Then, ask why is this dream important to you. What need does it fill? Write down your response.
For example, wanting to earn one million dollars from writing and selling your own books may be a way to secure a specific lifestyle for your retirement.
If your response does not include a feeling, keep asking why.
So, why would you want to secure a lifestyle for your retirement? Maybe you want to have a retirement of no worries about money and not wanting to work every day to be able to live. What you are seeking is financial security and freedom. The feelings that you are looking for are carefree and relaxed.
Or your response to wanting to earn a million dollars from writing may be totally different from wanting a secure retirement. You probably want to live up to or harness your full potential by becoming an author entrepreneur. Or, you want to develop a life that keeps you a bit occupied in your retirement or to continue to serve others when you are old.
If you ask why do you want to live up to your full potential, it may be that you don’t want to live a life of no regrets. You do not want to regret that you did not take action on a dream sooner. In the case of developing an activity for your retirement from a 9-to-5 job, the reason may be to be able to create new things and the excitement that comes with creating.
Step 2: Question whether the path to your dream gives experiences to partially satisfy your core desire
In this second step, ask yourself whether the path you have chosen helps to partially satisfy your core desire.
So, if you want a carefree retirement, would writing books to sell also give you the carefreeness you desire? Maybe you find writing is not enjoyable. In contrast, creating something new like writing your own books will be an enjoyable route.
Step 3: Ask yourself if you can attain a similar core desire by using a different path
Now you can challenge the route you have chosen. Ask yourself if this is the route to the dream for you?
If you want a carefree experience in becoming a millionaire author, writing your own books will not give you that experience. Maybe, you need to pay ghostwriters to write your books. In this care, you collaborate with the ghostwriter an outline and vision for your books and they write the book for you.
If instead, you find writing to be enjoyable then great! You are already on the correct path to your dream.
Take a few days, at most one week, to research the different paths to your dream. Then, compare and contrast the paths to see if they help satisfy your core desires.
Don’t wait to have the core desires that you think your dream will bring you. The path you choose should allow you multiple experiences to feel your core desires.
If in the pursuit of your dreams you don’t feel your core desires, please don’t kill your dream. Instead, first, reevaluate whether the path you have chosen is the right one for you.